So Onyx now Raven needs a new home :(

So As i mentioned before “Onyx now Raven”, and Cesar got into a fight over some treats.  It makes me really sad and upset.  She was doing so well, and improving so much from that state she was in from whence she came.  However, the foster failure parents now know for sure she can’t stay with them forever.  She is back to being a regular foster.  I had them write a bio for me and it’s below;

Onyx now Raven

Hello! This is Raven.

Raven is a 2.5 yr old Pit Mix. She is an extremely loving cuddle bug.

Raven has not had the best start to life but she is improving every day and is looking for a home all to herself, filled with love and patience. She came from a home that taught her she needs to guard items and be unsure if she was going to eat that day or not. Raven needs to be the only animal in the house. She is very skittish and unsure of everything around her. She acts like she was abused early on and is scared of brooms, loud noises, and a few other miscellaneous plain items. She is even unsure when people are laughing, dancing, or rough housing. She gets protective of women.

Raven is very allergic to grains but is okay on Costco’s Kirkland grain free and Authority from Petco.

 Raven needs constant training and patience. However, she knows how to sit, ask, wait and sit pretty.

Raven would be a great companion on hikes, bike rides and runs. However, until she has bonded I would keep her on the leash while out 90% of the time.

Raven’s bark may seem like she is a ferocious beast, but all she wants to do is sit in your lap and have your undivided attention.

Raven has lived with other animals but should not. She has never attacked a cat but she is curious about them and will chase them for a second.

So, if you have a stable, serene, patient and loving house then please consider adopting Raven as your fury, four legged companion.

  If you are interested or would like more information please Contact me:

Nina Cohen

(267)250-8470 cell

n.cohen83@hotmail.com email

Do you think this is a good BIO for a dog who needs a home?  i may retool it a bit, but i’m going to start out by seeing where i can post her info.  When i google pitbull rescue this is what i get http://www.pbrc.net/adoption/reality.html it doesn’t make me feel confident about Onyx now Raven’s future.  I clicked the links the sent me to and wound up having them recommend that we try and get her posted on adopt-a-pet and pet finder.  Neither of which you can post on unless you are a registered rescue or shelter.  However at least pet finder sent me some links so i can try and get her into a shelter.  I’m e-mailing http://k-9lifesavers.org/ right now to see if they will take her. >.< hope is low.  Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

A~

 

So much shit going on…

A word of note;  This post has graphic content NSFW, or Kids, or people who are easily upset by dog injuries.  

I have a lot going on, and i’m trying to balance it all, but i don’t know where to start.  I haven’t looked at my old list in awhile.  I ended up making a new list.  But i think the old one was way more solid.

Where do i begin?  My wants are high but my needs are little.  So i’m broke a lot.  I pretty much have the things i asked for. A dog and a boy so yay!  Both are more expensive than i thought they would be.  Paying for our needs costs a lot. Paying for our wants is also not the best.

I find myself not doing all the things i was doing before because i feel like i don’t have time.  And when i have the time i don’t have the money. That’s why i make these lists.  I want to buy a house, i’ve been talking about it for 2 years now, i keep trying to save $15,000.  It is not as easy as i would have hoped.  Maybe i’m just bad with money.  Maybe i’m to big of an impulse buyer.  Maybe i just bend to peer pressure to easily.

I think i’m in denial about how bad i am at budgeting.   Because of peer pressure i went to lending tree and filled out their form.  That was 2 weeks ago.  My phone hasn’t stopped ringing.  I feel like i’m being stalked when i know i can’t afford a home right now.  They call me ALL day long.  ALL DAMN DAY.  One my drive to work, at work and on my way home.  Eventually i answered.  I had a very nice talk with a fine gentleman who had no idea what i did for a living but was impressed with my credit.

So, I applied for preapproval for a home.  I was preapproved for 250,000.  Unfortunately that’s not really high enough for this area.  Or the area i would like to live in.  My monthly bills are tooo high, but they would be willing to work with me if i have just $7,000 to spare.  I could beg borrow and steal for it.  I’m going to get a very nice tax return, hell my boyfriend would help me pay for it.  But i’m not so sure….

I don’t have the money for closing costs realistically.

i need to buy the dog more steroids (to treat his IMHA)

I need a new mattress.

I’d like a PS4.

i’d like to buy my friends birthday gifts coming up.

i like eating breakfast made by someone else.

A monthly payment for a house that’s $250,000 is 1600 a month.  I would like renters, but if i do this with the bare minimum of what i have i won’t be able to furnish my home for a fucking year.  I need roommates how don’t drink.  I need roommates who like dogs.  I need to not feel like i’m biting off more than i can chew with this.

The lovely gentleman on the phone he almost had me.  The only two things he needed from me were my last 2 w-2’s annnnnnd?  and my last 2 bank account statements.  I knew immediately that i couldn’t take someone else looking at the disaster that was my financial life without me sitting next to them explaining why i spend $300 at Costco every month.  What i’m buying on steam and amazon.  why i’m spending at the gas station every morning. If i spent all this money at Costco why am i still going to the grocery store once or twice a week.  I just felt like i wasn’t ready for anyone to see that.

I stopped listening to him thinking about all the things i’m going to have to give up before i have a bank statement that doesn’t embarrass me.  A bank statement that never goes under a certain amount.  I’m sad.  I busted my ass to get a job so i could have nice things.  I need to give up a lot of the nice things i want to enjoy in order to get this bank statement to where i’m willing to share it with a mortgage company.  It may take 2 months.  It may take 2 years.  My first change?  i love writing reviews for yelp and trying new foods.  No more of that.  I have to increase the amount of money going into savings.  I need my bf to give me some financial aid when it comes to buying food/house supplies. However i can’t really control what he does so i guess that’s more like a want and not a need. No more getting lunch at work.  No sodas, no juice, no money spent at the work cafe during the work week.  When i make my dinner and have leftovers it better be food i’m willing to eat every day until it’s gone or spoiled.  Thank you crock pot and crock pot recipes.

My next change, no more video game purchases.  Not even on steam. No free ones from Play Station Plus either.  My PS3 is almost out of memory.  I’ve got to play the games i have to completion and leave it a that until they are all gone.

No more conventions.  I had a dream that i would outfit my current rental with awesome items from small convention vendors.  I have tickets for 2 to MAG fest, but this means no brony con and no otakon, and no Sakura Matsuri unless i’m volunteering.

No more cool pens.  I’m famous at work for collecting pens.  i’ll have to rely on the ones provided on my company.

I need to start driving uber more religiously.

I need to take the ebay store seriously.

No more financial assistance for little lost dogs.  Oh i didn’t tell you?  Onyx has fucked up…

20151229_233107Royally.  Over some treats…. Shitty treats… Fuck those treats.

They can’t keep her now.  She officially needs to be in a home with no other dogs. So we’re trying to find her a new forever home.  They love her, they know she can be a great dog.  But she’s too treat aggressive.  My poor nephew.  But i can’t donate money to that cause if i want to buy a home.  I will put tons of time into finding her a new home, but that’s another post.  And then there’s Oso.20151229_225829_resizedThis poor effing dog…

I couldn’t BRIBE WARL to take him, neuter him, or even be nice to me.  This isn’t my dog don’t treat me like i’m abandoning him.  Also, i love animals.  It makes me feel like a shallow son of a bitch,  but when they told me not so politely to Fuck off again, and mentioned the reason they had no space for any found strays was because they just rescued 12 dogs from Korea i almost shat myself.  I said maybe we can all donate money for your future endeavors in dog rescue, aside from WARL who else can we support?  And i quote”We rescue from various shelters around the world. Just two weeks ago we rescued 12 dogs from a meat farm in Korea”.  now don’t get me wrong, a meat farm in Korea is fucked up.  But those 12 dogs from Korea sounds great for publicity bad for Onyx now Raven and bad for Oso.  Once again, i’m getting away from the topic at hand.  That’s not the point.  The point is that i can no longer send them treats and adoption stuff to try and help them with this dog 😦 All i can donate is time.

Back on target: No more concerts, half my wardrobe is band t-shirts.  I have tickets for 3 concerts coming up.  I can’t by schwag at any of them.

I feel like i sound like a spoiled brat.  I’m not complaining mind you.  I’m cutting back to achieve a life goal.  I’m not in my 20’s nemore.  I don’t get play money if i want to pay all my bills on time and own a home.  Isn’t it funny?  Now that i can afford to do all the awesome things i’ve always dreamed about doing…. i can’t afford to do all the awesome things i’ve always dreamed about doing.

I need to study for my certs.  I’ve been saying that for as long as i’ve been on here.  Last summer was the closest i’ve ever been to completing a tutoring program.  Every day, every week that i haven’t completed that cert i’m fucking my life over.  All i’m doing is watching doors open for other people.  Other equals.  I’ve got to put the time in.  Something like that alone could put me in a position to be ready right now.  It’s what i’ve been waiting for.  Maybe it’s been my excuse.

I’m on it.  I’m on all these things i swear.  I’m going to succeed.  I know what to take away.  I’m just not sure how i’m going to mentally adjust.  But it’s worth the sacrifice you know?

I don’t want to be in fear of my landlord not liking me and kicking me out, just cause.

I don’t want to have to worry about being the bad roommate.

I want to be able to make the rules.

I want to have a fenced in yard.

I want my friends to come visit my house.

I want control.

I want to be able to pay this bill without worrying about my next meal.

I’m tired of being trigger shy.

What would Pennsylvania do?

Huh, ehhhh, maybe not a good example.  But it explains a lot…

So what would Sundance do?

SAMSUNG

Fuck it

A~

Is it me?

I’m starting to feel abandonded… it’s like there are so many people out there that i haven’t talked to in forever, and they don’t reach out to me.  Is it me?

I have to  admit i’ve snubbed people, people who were doing things that were obviously “wrong”.  People who the group believed to be Immature, or just well bad.  i used to think i was so loyal, but i’ve abandonded people.  I thought i was doing what was best for everyone.  So why am i alone?

I made it clear i didn’t want to be around the bad influences nemore.  I was cheered on and people stood by me, but those people seem to have dissapeared.  It seems as though the people i’ve snubbed or the people i’ve abandonded are more fun, or more better and others want to be around them.  No one calls me any more.    Some people can blame it on the distance.  Some people can blame it on the dog.

In a world where everyone is connected even without the regular social media that most peple have to connect me, i know what’s going on.  Even i can’t live in a vacuum of ignorance for other people.  But i still feel alone.  So i’m wondering if all these people who i ditched for drugs, questionable decisions, drama, emotional abuse, booze benders, are hanging out and being happy with the people who told me it was right for me to leave, and supported my snobby decision.

Is it me?

Is it normal to leave behind so much?

When you look at people who have been married and divorced 4 or more times, doesn’t the thought cross your mind… what’s wrong with that person?  At a cerrtain point its not the spouse it’s you.

Does the same thing work with non-romantic relationships?

Is it me?

Am i like Onyx now Raven?

Onyx now Raven was doing so well, but now she’s struggling.

My boyfriend and Nina’s boyfriend believe that it’s only a matter of time.  She can’t be uptight forever.  I’m not so sure,  i hope she can stay with them, however i’m concerend that they may have enough pets without her there.  She needs a lot of attention and that makes owning her hard with other pets.  I think they can do it.  I hope they can do it.  She just seems so happy there.  I’m sure she thinks we’re all nuts though, she’s just being a dog.

At least she’s still not humping pillows…

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“get it out of my house” he says

But she’s not eating well…

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They say cuddling, i say a little bit of Dom cuddling…

They are working on bed and spot.  She gets it but is stillpushy and needy. Le sigh…

Well if there’s hope for PA i guess there’s hope for all of us?

Until next time.

P.S. Nolan’s first birthday party was awesome 😉

A response from a rescue…

This is the response i received from the rescue that i sent the e-mail i posted yesterday; “Good morning,

You would take him to The Washington Humane Society on New York Ave. They will take care of having him neutered and placed up for adoption. The cost would be on the shelter and not you. Since you can’t afford to care for him, this will be the best option for everyone involved.

Thank you for caring for him thus far, and I hope this information helps.”

Am i wrong to be underwhelmed with this answer?

SAMSUNG

SAMSUNG

 “Especially since two dudes just dropped me and my  mom off one day and you didn’t send me to New York avenue…”

i mean, i’m not asking them to take the dog, i’m asking for a low cost spay and neuter appointment…. out of curiosity i asked if they were a no kill shelter.

Now i have volunteered in the past so i really appreciated this blog post http://blog.warl.org/ however, i have a dog  i do not want to die, but cannot keep because i did the right thing and adopted my dog, whom i care for to the best of my ability, and will do so until the end of his days, but he is expensive and not dog friendly.  I also rent so i can not have 2 dogs. I am trying to find Oso a new home, or a shelter that will take him, because his original owners did the wrong thing.  so how do i find about his odds of life in these two shelters?  I ask simply “is your shelter ‘no-kill’?” Am i wrong to ask this?

 

 

 

Finally! Onyx now Raven

Onyx has been adopted by my high school friend from Philadelphia, Nina.  Yay!  She now lives with 2 cats and has an older brother Cesar.  They are getting along great!  all those issues she left Baltimore with seem to have disappeared.  No more humping pillows, no more fear based acting out every things is all good for the little princess.  She Even has a new name to go along with her wonderful new life “Raven”.  Nina was originally just going ot try and foster her while we kept trying to get her into a shelter, but she is now a foster failure and her family is complete (until babies that is), i’m glad that she and joe were able to do so good by this dog, it’s been a couple of months now and Raven is doing great!

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(seen here being spoiled by Auntie A~)

 

it helps that they like 2 different types of toys, so they don’t have anything to fight over.  It also cracks me up that i escaped from PA only to send Onyx there to live a happy life.  Irony?  maybe PA isn’t so bad after all…

Nope. Never mind.  Good for just doggies maybe.

20151010_124826.jpg.jpegCan you even tell the adorableness apart?

 

A~

trying to get Onyx into Homeward Trails

this is the response e-mail that i recieved:

THANK YOU FOR CONTACTING HOMEWARD TRAILS!

If you adopted your dog from Homeward Trails and need to return him/her please contact returndog@homewardtrails.org
Per our adoption agreement, we will definitely take your dog back for any reason.  You will receive a response to your e-mail within the next 24 hours.  If you do not wish to return your dog but are requesting advice or resources, we are happy to assist in whatever way we can.

If you did not adopt your dog from Homeward Trails but are requesting assistance in re-homing your dog there is a lot you can do on your own!
• If you purchased your dog from a breeder, you may be contractually obligated to return your dog to them.  Please review your paperwork for further information.
• If you adopted your dog from a rescue or Humane Society, you may be contractually obligated to return your dog to them.  Please review your paperwork or call the rescue/shelter for further information.
Once you have determined that you are not obligated to return your dog to an organization, we suggest the following:
• If your dog is purebred, contact a breed specific rescue.  They specialize in the breed and often have more flexibility to take in dogs.
• Advertise your dog!  Post on sites like Adopt-A-Pet (http://www.adoptapet.com/), Petfinder (http://www.petfinder.com/index.html ), Pets 911 (www.pets911.com).  You can also put flyers up at local dog parks, vets, grocery stores, Starbucks, and other community bulletin boards.

We receive between 40-50 requests per week from the general public asking us to take in dogs.  We help when we can but space is very limited and we give priority to dogs on the euthanization list at the shelter and our own return adoptions.  We do not have a shelter facility but rely on a network of foster homes which are almost always full.  Each dog we bring in that belongs to a private citizen takes up a spot of a dog on death row.

You will be asked to complete a questionnaire about your dog, provide at least three pictures, and copies of your pet’s most up-to-date vet records.

Please also be aware that we will almost always ask owners relinquishing their dog to Homeward Trails make a tax-deductible monetary donation between $100-$400.  Our fosters pay for food and supplies out of pocket and the organization covers the cost of medications, vaccinations, flea and tick preventive, heartworm preventive, and any other expenses that arise during the time we have a dog in our care.  If we are able to take in your dog it is also very likely that we will have to place your dog in boarding in a doggie daycare at a cost to our organization.  We can’t predict how long we will have a dog in our system – it could be one week or one year.

In order for your dog to be considered for our program, please respond to this e-mail with the following information:
•         Age, weight, breed of dog
•         Is your dog spayed/neutered and up to date on shots?
•         Is your dog good with other dogs?  Cats?
•         Does your dog have any anxieties?
•         Does your dog have any medical conditions?
•         How is your dog with children?
•         What causes you to need to surrender your dog?
•         Can you provide pictures of your dog?
•         Are you able to keep your dog until a home is found?
•         When does your dog need to be re-homed?

Should we have space for your dog, we may request to assess him/her prior to accepting them in our program.

A few final notes:
• Have you consulted with a trainer? Many bad behaviors can be fixed with the help of a trainer.    Keep in mind that not every trainer is able to help with every issue – get recommendations from your vet or from rescues – both have lots of experience with trainers in your area.
• Is your dog a senior?  Remember that most adoptive families are not looking for a senior dog and most senior dogs never make it out of the shelter.  Please consider whether you absolutely must give up your dog or if you can make adjustments in your home for the remainder of your dog’s life to accommodate any issues.
• Is your dog a bully breed?  Please keep in mind that bullies crowd local shelters and have far fewer options for adoption than most other breeds.  Many bullies never make it out of the shelter.  Consider whether you have explored every option in order to keep your bully.
• Have you lost your home or do you need to move?  The DC metro area has many dog-friendly apartment complexes and rentals.  Please Google “pet friendly housing” for options.

Thank you again for contacting Homeward Trails.

😦  i responded, fingers crossed